My fiance won't behave for pictures. What to do?

My fiance and I got some pictures taken the other day and he looked like he was in agony. His mom and sister were taking them so that might be why but why couldn't he just buck-up, swallow his pride, and smile for the camera?





I'm about to tell the photographer to forget trying to take pictures of him because he'll just be an *** anyway. I try to talk to him about it and he go's off on how photographers always ask him to "SMILE" and that he would smile but he looks ridiculous. He looks so handsome when he's not showing teeth and happy, but when he's in front of the camera, it's like someone's pulling out his fingernails. I'd rather have a few good candid shots instead of a bunch with him frowning and attacking the camera with evil eyes. What to do?

My fiance won't behave for pictures. What to do?
I too have this issue with my hubby.


Just get used to it. U can't change him.


%26amp; there's no use in starting a big arguement....it's petty.
Reply:are you marrying a 4 year old?
Reply:Bribe him.
Reply:Hire a photographer to "stalk" him. He's bound to catch him smiling some time.
Reply:tell him if he really loves you he will behave for the pics. they are important to you.





if he dosent understand that, than maybe he isnt mature enough to be getting married. and maybe you need to explain that to him.
Reply:Assuming you'll be hiring a professional photographer for the wedding - he'll instruct your husband on how to pose, smile, etc. Normally in the formal setting of a wedding, and given the seriousness of the vows they've just taken, even the biggest picture phobe will behave.
Reply:tell him to suck it up and do it for you.


If he's getting married, than he needs to let go of boyhood and become a man.


But is there anyone you know of that he would feel comfortable taking his picture? I always hated getting my picture taken cause im self-consious. but I let Kris take my picture becuase I know she wont make me look ridiculous.


Maybe its the same for him.
Reply:Marry someone that is more mature than a 10 year old kid.
Reply:You make sure you use a professional photographer who shoots with high speed digital. He will be taking 10 snaps for every proof you get to see so even if the big goof makes a face, there will be at least one good proof of every pose. That's why you pay big bucks to a great photographer!
Reply:Tell him to grow up.





And tell the photographer to focus on candids.
Reply:You might want to rethink marrying this guy until he starts behaving like a grown up.
Reply:My FI does not like photos either. But since we are paying for our entire wedding and photographers are not cheap, i stress the fact that it would be a pricey mistake not to smile nicely!


He just needs to relax. Its really not that big of a deal to take a photo...
Reply:Geez. What do you think your wedding photos will be like? You beaming, he with an agonized grimace?





You need to decide if all of his other qualities outweigh never having a good individual or group photo with him.





If it's the smiling that's a problem, can you pose something where he is gazing seriously up at you and you are smiling tenderly down on him? Or something? Just work it so that it doesn't look bad if he doesn't smile.
Reply:If your asking your husband to do the simplest thing, which is smiling for a camera (even a 5 year old would do that).





Imagine what your getting yourself into once your married.
Reply:It sounds like he needs to grow up and figure a way to sit still and smile normally for the photos. Maybe practice on your own? Your photographer (if he or she is a true professional) should be able to work with him. Surely, he's not the only one.





I don't know what else to say because it's hard for me to sit for pictures (it's very uncomfortable). It feels forced and fake. I'm not good at that. But I put forth a real effort. I think practice may help with him. Take out your camera and start shooting pictures. (Hope you have a digital camera so he can see how he looks. that may help). Best of luck to you.
Reply:Not everyone likes their picture taken. I don't but I do behave when my fiance and I get our picture taken together. I don't really smile, its more of a crooked grin. Most any picture that has ever been taken of me has my middle finger in between me and the camera lens. I just don't like my picture to be taken! I don't feel that I am very photogenic. I hate when people tell me to smile! I tell them that I already am!
Reply:good luck! i had the same prolem but not with my husband but with his family. his mom and brother look pissed off in the photos i dont even want to order any of them. its just something we have to deal with when we marry people. sorry but be glad my husband was trying to be tuff with his friends but in the ones with just him he smiled. good luck
Reply:Sounds like an episode of Friends, when Chandler and Monica are getting their engagment photos! Although he was trying to smile, he just looked like an idiot.





He can smile without showing teeth.





Have the photog take pics from the waist up. When the photog says smile, just cup and rub your DH, that will put a smile on his face!
Reply:I'm not wild about having my picture taken either. But, because I'm a grown woman and not a 4-year-old I dress up, look nice, and make an effort to cooperate and have good photos. Lots of people think that photography sessions are not exactly the most fun things ever, but most us are mature enough to endure it and put forth the effort to have nice pictures.





You need to have a talk with your fiance and explain how important it is to have nice wedding photos. Surely he can endure having pictures taken for one day.
Reply:you bugging him isn't going to help with his camera shyness...





perhaps he just needs to be less nervous



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